Thursday, July 24, 2008

Come, Come ye Saints...Happy Pioneer Day



Throughout Utah, July 24th is known as Pioneer day! This is a day that we take a moment to celebrate the pioneers who sacrificed so much so that we could have the church established in these latter days. Celebrations include parades, fireworks, marathons, bbq's, family reunions, firesides and devotionals, decorating of graves etc.

I have had opportunities to visit the sites that the pioneers traveled through. I have been several times to Kirtland (Where the members were forced out of), Nauvoo (where the temple was burnt to the ground and the members forced to flee), Carthege (where our beloved prophet Joseph Smith and brother Hyrum were murdered), Winter Quarters in Nebraska (where we lost many pioneers in the bitter cold), as well as Martin's Cove where I was incharge of a trek last year in that sacred place. All these experiences were sweet and unforgetable. I learned so much of what huge sacrifices were made for us and the faith to continue the long, hard journey these pioneers had. They showed such increased faith as to say they had "nothing to fear from the journey."

In Nauvoo I was so touched walking down Parley street reading about all the lives of faith and courage which existed among the pioneers. They were so honorable and led lives of true devotion to the Savior.



While on the trek at Martin's cove I couldn't believe how hard it was to pull and push the handcarts up the steep inclines and rocky areas. An astonishing part that made the ending of the trek the hardest part because it turned out to be miserable was while crossing the sweet water. We were hot and tired and stopped to take in the moment as we crossed. Getting the handcart through the water was a chore! But what it did to you after crossing was MISERABLE. We got wet and experienced great chafing as well as blistery feet due to wet shoes. I could only imagine the condition of those dear saints feet and bodies!


I am going to recap some of my favorite pioneer stories I have been told. I hope they touch and inspire you, as they do me at the faithful spirits within each of them.

I think of the girl who lost all but one of her family members on the trek to the Salt Lake valley. Carried her last remaining sibling on her back all the way there. As soon as she made it on Utah soil, she put her sibling down. Layed on the ground and died.

Or the story of a little girl who was so frozen and so cold that she kept climbing into the hancart to rest and her father kept putting her down and making her run alongside the cart the whole way. She was so upset that she wasn't given a rest.. later she came to find out that the reason for that was to keep her blood flowing to all her extremities so that she wouldn't loose any from frostbite.

Of all the illustrations of faith in the Lord, few stories are more powerful than that told of the pioneer who years later stood to defend the decision of the Martin Handcart Company to start for the Salt Lake Valley late in the year of 1856. He had been one of the nearly 3,000 Saints who walked from Iowa and Nebraska to Utah between 1856 and 1860 in one of 10 companies pushing and pulling handcarts loaded with their belongings.
In a Sunday School class there was sharp criticism of the ill-fated Martin and Willie Handcart Companies, which met with tragedy because of their late start on the trek to the Salt Lake Valley.
An elderly man arose and said: “I ask you to stop this criticism. You are discussing a matter you know nothing about. Cold historic facts … give no proper interpretation of the questions involved. Mistake to send the Handcart Company out so late in the season? Yes. But I was in that company and my wife … too. We suffered beyond anything you can imagine and many died of exposure and starvation, but … we became acquainted with God in our extremities.
“I have pulled my handcart when I was so weak and weary from illness and lack of food that I could hardly put one foot ahead of the other. I have looked ahead and seen a patch of sand or a hill slope and I have said, I can go that far and there I must give up, for I cannot pull the load through it. … I have gone on to that sand and when I reached it, the cart began pushing me. I have looked back many times to see who was pushing my cart, but my eyes saw no one. I knew then that the angels of God were there.
“Was I sorry that I chose to come by handcart? No. Neither then nor any minute of my life since. The price we paid to become acquainted with God was a privilege to pay, and I am thankful that I was privileged to come in the Martin Handcart Company” (as quoted in David O. McKay, “Pioneer Women,” The Relief Society Magazine, Jan. 1948, 8).

Often time I think of the hymn Come, come ye saints. This part is especially poinant to me.. "And shall we die, before our journey's through, HAPPY DAY all is well." I think I would think it was a happy day after suffering that much on the plains.. they probably meant it very differently but I have to sing that Happy day with such emphasis after experiencing the trek myself.

These stories are only but a mini sized portion of the trials and miracles that these blessed saints endured. In my own life I hope that I can be worthy of this kind of faith that is displayed. Thank you pioneers for the rights and freedoms and truths that you suffered so that we would have everything that we have here in Utah in 2008. My faith is increased through your example!

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Celebrating the birth of Matt Dearing!!



Happy, Happy Birthday Matty!
Macho, Marvelous, Million Dollar, Matty-

Today is the Birthday of one of my dearest friends Matty! We have been through the ringer together... the EFY ringer that is!! hahhaa Matt has made me laugh, made me cry and has been a friend to me when other's didn't know how to. There are so many different reasons why I love Matt. Here are a few...

Matt always knows what he wants and will go for it regardless of the cost!

    Matt is rough on the outside but such a tenderheart on the inside

    He will cry with you or laugh at or with you.. whatever fits the situation

    He knows when he is wrong and will make an effort to let you know.

    He has a fire for the gospel and isn't afraid to tell you spiritual things

    He loves his Mom and his wife... they can do nothing wrong!

    He is loyal.. it's hard to get in his heart but once you are there... you are there forever.

    He loves kids and turns into one when they are around.

    He is a true friend through and through

I bonded close to Matt when I was one of the EFY building Counselor riding in the van ("cruiser") when he hit a parked car.. everyone else remained quiet but I was afraid Matt was going to start crying (although he would never admidt it.. there were tears a brewin) so I called him the "Cruiser Bruiser!" Everyone thought I was so rude.. but I think it endeared me to Matt and the rest is history. The next year we became Coordinator partners and had to totally take care of eachother to survive that summer. All the things that happed to us that summer I couldn't have survived with out his steady friensdhip and concern. Matt has saved me from sleepwalking, bought me food when I was physically weary, protected me from hard situations, tried to keep me posted on the comings and goings in his life while I was away in Illinois and when I came back for his wedding, he let me be in the all guy buddy picture outside the temple.

Even though life changes, people get married and everyone has to move on he lets me hang with his wife and him from time to time. I think Matt knows how I feel about him and cherish his sweet friendship. Heck, he let's me call him Matty which is a big step in itself!

I have been trying to upload this great slideshow I made for his birthday a few years ago with lots of fun pictures from his past.. Maybe someday I will get it to work! But in the meantime, I will just share some pictures of why we all celebrate this boy named Matthew Timothy Dearing's Birthday!!


Hope you and Aubs had a FANTASTIC day Matty!
Laughin our heads off in the middle of the night!
Cheesy EFY days! This is when I was in the wheelchair at EFY.. Always willing to show off! This kid is strong he could pick me up!The married Man! He got really lucky!

He's got the WHOLE world in his hands!! Always there to lift you up when you need him!

Everyone that knows the real Matt celebrates his BIRTH!

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

RE-UNITED AND FEELS SO GOOD..EFY FRIENDS FOREVER!

As you can tell this weekend was bitter sweet. Not only did I have a funeral but I had a WONDERFUL EFY Old School Reunion. What a blessing that was. I saw people that I haven't seen in over 5 yrs! So much fun! Not to mention 4 EFY babies on the way!

The thing that I found most amusing was that many of the couples that showed were the 10% couples. If you aren't familiar with that. It has been said that 10% of EFY counselors marry eachother.. I don't think that is quite right... I think personally it is much higher! Here are some snipits of pictures from the night...
These are the people that came.. that I have been able to remember... I am so sorry if I forgot you!

  • Jackson Westenschow and Heather Brinkerhoff Westenschow (pregnant w/ child)
    Troy Anderson and Heidi Brinkerhoff Anderson
    Fernando (sharon was in Cali with the kids)
    Kurt Johnson, wife and 2 kids
    Julie Little Erikson and hubby Phil (pregnant with child)
    Anna Osmond Poole and Marcus Poole and son Connor (pregnant with Child)
    Deveney Tucker Jensen (pregnant with child)
    Desiree Marchant Syme and hubby Chuck
    Kylee Shields
    Kevin Peterson
    Staci Yamada
    Jen Willahan
    Adam Esenshroder
    Amy Peese Bellamy and hubby Adam with Baby Boston
    Kristen Mcmullin
    Randilyn Nordstrom
    Emilie Johnson Adams plus 2 kids, Mckenna and Hadley
    Katie Montgomery
    Tiffany Stephen
    Jessica and Greg Warner
    Tyson Ripley
    Andrea A
    Don Osmond
    Carrie Drake
    Brett Barrett and Sister Jamie Barrett
    Cindy King Merryweather and husband Reid
    Ry Guy tucker
    Mark Millet (wife Mary was at Girl's Camp)
    Meg Gazaway (hahaha)
    Emily Hansen, husband and kids
    Tammy Burton Lamm and husband and baby girl Emma
  • Sharylann Goertzen
    I know there are people I am missing.. sorry!


EFY FOREVER BABY!






Saturday, July 12, 2008

A sweet Farewell

Today was Craig's funeral and the service was beautiful, peaceful, hopeful yet still tearful!

His Brother's David and Kevin had everyone laughing about the CRAIGISM'S and his Sister Shelley gave a tearful reading of a short essay she had wrote in school about her hero brother and had read to him on his Birthday in November. It was precious. The Decker family (parents and siblings) joined together and sang Our Savior's Love and there was also a beautiful rendition of Abide with me played on the trumpet.

Craig's Mother gave the most humble accounting of the last encounter with her son and told us how heart wrenching it was to watch her son die right before her eyes and there was nothing that she could do about it! She taught us about what the atonement really is and how the Savior took her pain and guilt away completely and replaced it with overwhelming peace and re-assurance.
His Father Lynn bore a powerful testimony about not allowing fear to overtake us but taking that fear and turning it into action for good. He shared how his son was secretely, painfully shy but none of us would EVER know it because he refused to let fear paralyze him and mustered what ever courage it took to be outgoing and loving to all.

I will never be Craig Decker. I am not blessed with the same spiritual gifts that he has. But I do know that I can make some changes in my life that will make me a more sincere and a better example of my Savior, Jesus Christ.

Good bye sweet smiley Craig. Your legacy will live on throught the eternities!
All my love, Meg

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Craig's Obituary... still learning from him even though he is gone!


Craig Hammond Decker - Obituary
November 22, 1982 – 7/5/2008


It is with tender feelings that family and friends bid farewell to our beloved Craig, who died while sailing with his parents at Utah Lake.
Craig Hammond Decker, 25, was born November 22, 1982 in Murray, Utah to Lyle and Marie Decker. He was a vibrant young man who was loved and respected by the many people whose lives he touched.
An Eagle Scout, he graduated from West Jordan High in 2001. He and Mark Hendricks were Drum Majors of the school’s award winning marching band where he learned to inspire and lead with love. His loving leadership continued as he served as a missionary and branch president in the Argentina Neuquen mission, as a youth councilor for EFY, and as a devoted member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
In Jan. 2007 he lost his right hand in a fireworks accident. He said, “I will not be a victim.” Two days later he returned to his studies at BYU in Neuroscience. Craig overcame his trials with optimism and ingenuity, and continues to be an inspiration to many people through his YouTube videos under “captaindanger384.” In spite of personal difficulties he sought to bring love, light, laughter and faith to more people than ever imagined. His life was an active expression of his faith in the Savior, Jesus Christ.

His written personal goals were:


  1. People are always more important.

  2. Do what you need to do when you need to do it whether you want to or not.
  3. I am not a victim, ever.
  4. Purity is power.
  5. Leave it better than when you found it.
  6. Life is a joy, a journey in becoming like my Heavenly Father.
  7. Live with purpose.


Craig is survived by his parents, Lyle B. and Marie (Error) Decker, his brothers and sisters, Joanne, Emily, David and Heidi (Vriens), Lynn, Kevin, and Shelley Decker, his grandmother, Bertha K. Error and numerous loving extended family.
A tribute website at www.craig-decker.com Donations to the Craig Decker Legacy Trust and Scholarship Fund can be made at any Key Bank or at donations@craig-decker.com through PayPal. has been created to remember this remarkable young man.
We extend our deepest gratitude to the many selfless and compassionate staff and volunteers of the search and rescue effort. Thank you also for the many prayers and kind words offered in our behalf.
All are welcomed to attend a visitation Friday, July 11, 2008 from 6-8 pm at the Jenkins-Soffe Mortuary, 1007 W. South Jordan Pkwy (10600 S.) South Jordan, Utah. Funeral services will be held Saturday July 12, 2008, 11:00 am at the LDS chapel located at 7265 S. 2700 W. West Jordan, Utah, with visitation one hour prior. Internment, West Jordan City Cemetery, 1300 W 7800 S.

I definately celebrate your BIRTH!! Happy Birthday Mom!

My sweet Angie Sullivan always does the nicest, kindest Birthday tributes to her loved ones and today I thought I would follow suite and let my Mom be my first ever Birthday Tribute!

For any of you that know my Mom you know I am one lucky gal. I was born of a wonderful woman. A Woman of Charity. A Woman of honor. A hard working Woman. A self sustaining Woman. A patient and loving Woman. A Woman I proudly call Mother.



Mom was the oldest of 11 children born to Les and Joyce Schroeppel in Ames, Iowa in 1954. She had to be one tough cookie to survive 7 brothers and 3 sisters and all the babysitting hours that must have meant.
I was born when Pat was 3 yrs old and Mom was in the middle of a divorce. She has always made me feel so special and like I was really wanted even though she was going through one of the hardest times of her life. She always tells me that I was her angel baby and that I was just what she needed to get through that hard time. I think she is just one amazing woman to have done it!

Little did my Mom know what she was getting herself into. Two very high maintainance children. I was the creative one.. always putting on plays and choir concerts for the whole neighborhood and expecting Mom to provide all the refreshments for the hoards of people that I had invited. Pat was the trend setter. He always had to get the latest and greatest shoes, bikes, clothes etc. But Mom always filled the need and provided what we felt we "needed" no matter what the sacrifice. Heck she didn't even own a car till I was 18!

My favorite life lesson that I learned from my Mom is she is a woman of Faith. I shared a bed with Mom till I was 12 yrs old. She would put me to bed and then do a few more things around the house before she retired for the night. I always faked asleep because the truth is I couldn't sleep till I knew my Mom was there by me. There were many nights that I would hear her prayers at a whisper. And here her petitions to the Lord for our family. Mom knows her Heavenly Father and she knows the order of prayer. I learned from her faith without her even knowing I was listening.

Mom was always a favorite of our friends as well as our cousins. People were drawn to our house because she brought love there. Ok and junk food too :) Still our friends every so often stop to visit Mom. Infact when I was on my mission, Jer even took her out a couple times. People love her!


Mom is the BEST Daughter, Sister, Aunt, Grandma and Friend around!


Mom I know I probably over shared for your liking but this is only a small part of what I know to be true about you and what I totally love about you! Thanks for who you are. Thanks for the lessons I learned through your faithful example. Thanks for loving me even though I am a brat. Thanks for being YOU because that is who I love!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Let yourself enjoy it! I love you forever. I like you for always. Forever, and ever my MOMMY you'll be!

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Thou Art The Man...The World Will Never be the Same!

Craig Decker
November 22, 1982-July 5, 2008
Today they found the body of my EFY friend Craig Decker in Utah lake after a massive 4day search for him. Late on Saturday eve waves overtook him while he was trying to retrieve an ore.

All I can say is we lost one of the kindest, meekest, funniest Men I have ever known that Saturday night!

I worked several years at EFY with Craig. His smile made life seem ok even through the stress of EFY. I moved out of Utah for a year and came back. Craig's firework accident happened while I was away. Upon returning I came to EFY to check in with all my old friends. As soon as I entered the cubical there Craig sat with his bandaged arm and came over to me to give me a hug. I was seriously in shock to see this wounded smiley boy looking at me! I said, "CRAIG! what did you do to yourself?!" Smiling from ear to ear he made up this tall tale of how he received his injury. Honestly I was in so much shock that I couldn't tell you the long story he told. At the end of his story I got really emotional for him and he giggled and told me that he was "pulling my arm" and gave me the real story. I hugged him again, not knowing how to respond because usually someone with a story like that would be seeking compassion but there Decker's' was just smiling at me! I said, "Craiggers, what can I do for you?!" Smiling again he looked at me and said, "If I ever need a HAND I'll defiantly let you know!, or if you need a HAND you tell me!" I couldn't help to trade my shock for a loud Meg laughter and a slug on the good arm! I told him, "Craig of course you would have this attitude! I wouldn't expect anything less of you!" Everyone that has ever met or even heard of Craig knows this to be true. His pure innocent attitude and smile had the power to penetrate even the worst of days. Last night I was chatting with a EFY buddy and we were discussing our heartbreak over the loss of this good man. We were in awe that in such shallow waters our friend was not being found. I said to Buck, maybe he was translated like Enoch...he is good enough to be! And I believe he could have been if that were the Lord's will! That is just the kind of person he is... "He lived great and died great!"

This picture completely captures Craigs witty sense of humor!

I want to just show you a glimpse of who he is by a blog entry he wrote back in February 07. (A little side note on Craigs history. Craig spent A new years a couple years ago in Mexico. While there he did fireworks at midnight on new years eve and a faulty one blew off his right hand. Here is some lessons he learned..)

7 lessons from a firework (written 2-07)
I haven’t always been left handed. In fact, I still get weirded out when I look down at the stub where my right hand used to be! Christmas vacation this year took me on a road trip to Mexico.




Question: Where can you buy better quality fireworks than in Mexico? (Answer: anywhere.) On New Year’s Eve I lit a harmless looking firework at midnight, and a moment later I looked down and realized that my hand took the early bus back to heaven!All joking aside, I have learned some powerful lessons through that experience. (Surprisingly, most of them have very little to do with firework safety!)


Although what occurred was tragic, I believe what I have learned has made me a better person and will continue to bless the lives of many individuals.


1. Don’t buy fireworks in Mexico!


2. There are some things in life that we simply cannot control. (If I hadn’t blown off my hand, some other poor person would have.) It’s okay. As we let go of those things quickly and completely, we become free.


3. “Men are that they might have joy”! Life is good. Laughter heals. Life is funny. There are funny things that happen every day even in the worst of situations. Bad days make good stories. There is a time to laugh and a time to cry. It’s funny that laughter and tears come together so easily.


4. The atonement of Christ brings peace and healing “that surpass all understanding”. We come to know ourselves and we come to know God through our trials. We are surrounded by miracles. When we trade self pity for humility, our eyes are opened to see them.


5. There is so much life to live! Why waste time worrying and stressing about inconsequential things? Spend time doing what matters most—the things that bring the most light and joy to life. Enjoy the ride.


6. Challenges make us stronger and better. With creativity and patience, we are capable of much more than we ever imagined. Our perspective determines our reality. (There is nothing that quite compares with the feeling of accomplishment gained from flossing with one hand for the first time!)


7. We can always lift others, no matter how bad of a situation we are in. It is a divine gift. The only true and lasting joy comes from forgetting ourselves and lifting those around us through love and service.I would never wish another person to lose their hand. But I hope my experiences and lessons make a difference in your life. Wahoo for the resurrection!!




If I got a choice what was written on his grave in big letters I would put... "WAHOO FOR THE RESURRECTION!" Because I can just hear him saying that and living that!

This picture above is that million dollar smile I talk about.. I've never NOT seen him like this!




Although this blog entry doesn't come close to expressing the type of kindness and meekness that pertruded from Craig, I hope you can get a glimpse of the person he was and the love people had for him. I will never forget that smile that million dollar attitude changing smile.




Craig, thanks being virtuous, lovely, of good report and praiseworthy! God be with you till we Meet again!

Sunday, July 6, 2008

New Years Resolution: TRAVEL and boy have I :)

After achieving the New Years Resolution for the FIRST time in my life in 2007 by saying I was going to loose weight and did.. 54 lbs! I decided that in the year of 2008 I was going to have a fun resolution to achieve! I chose TRAVEL. Since I have worked for a year at JetBlue Airways I thought it was about time to use the glorious benefits I have and so I started jetting and these are the places I have been so far...





Feb 2008: A Carnival Cruise with a woman who is like a mom to me and a best friend all at the same time, Pat Terry. We celebrated my 30th Birthday Cruise style to Baja Mexico.














  • March 2008: Went with some of my Roomies, EFY GHETTO, and Jon Portie to San Juan Puerto Rico. We all got fried (3 degree burns I tell you) but LOVED it there!

  • May 2008: Jen (my benefit significant other and BFF) went to Ireland and London! That was an UNFORGETTABLE experience.. LOVED IT! Some highlights from that... Kissed an Irish man, Our first day in London we got seperated on the subway, The spa at the Marriott at the end of our trip, Choral performance at Westminster Abby, The scenery and seeing all the sights that you have heard about your ENTIRE LIFE! And spending much needed time with Jen.

  • May 2008: Our families FIRST EVER DISNEYLAND trip! I flew in straight from Ireland to meet my family at Disneyland... well not exactly. I didn't get on my flight so I had to take a taxi to pick up a car that my brother Pat had bought in Oakland, CA and drive it 7 hours to Long Beach all ontop of Jet lag... My cell phone died and I had no idea where I was going, when I stopped to try to buy gas and a charger the car battery died! I sat in the parking lot sobbing and a guy came to help and after he got my car started he wanted me to spend the night with him...don't worry I didn't evensay a word.. I just put my pedal to the medal! I finally got connection with my Mom for about 1 min before my phone died again...enough for her to here me having an emotional breakdown and telling her I had no idea where I was (so mean of me.) About 4 hours into the drive I found a compatible cell phone charger and was able to contact my family. My brother paid for me to stop at a hotel for the night! (loved him for that!) I was so exhausted when I climbed in the sheets and there were holes...yes, literally HOLES in them, I didn't even flinch.. just slept! The next morning I wanted to take a picture but my camera battery and the car battery was dead again! :( To make a long story short, I did finally made it to my family and had a wonderful time with them at Disneyland for 2 days!







  • June 2008: Mesa, AZ . Joslyn Whiting's Wedding. Got to fly into our sweet Josie's wedding of adventures! My cell phone went on the fritz again and so I had no way to call anyone when I arrived at the airport and my rental car wasn't ordered till the next day.. so I slept at the Mesa airport!! It is so suprizing how many people actually sleep at the airport! The next morning I left the airport and headed to find a sprint store to see if I needed a new battery or what. My phone got fixed but the sales person ERASED all my 350 numbers!!! So then I was stranded in AZ not even knowing a single number to call! I spent the whole day in the mall praying that someone would call or text me and Rachel Annes Burner did! (she is who I stayed with .. THANKS RACHIE BABY!)

We had lots of Adventures while we were in AZ. I met Holli and baby Dallin there! Love them and Holli did my hair so I was totally HOLLIFIED to come back to Utah, Joni, Justin and I ended up lost the majority of the time, We had to carry in pounds of ice, food and decor for the treats at the reception and even drill a hole in the table, All the cards aka Money got stolen at the reception including the bridal parties purses and car keys, and Joni missed her flight by one minute and I ended up flying home to her family in Boise without her :(






















Upon arrivng in Boise I stayed for a few hours the next day, went to pick up Joni at the airport and dropped her off and took her 2 youngest and her mini van back to Utah with me! The following week all 4 of her youngest and I boarded that same mini van and drove back to Boise, Met Joni at the Boise temple and she took me to the airport and dropped me off to fly home.. what a whirlwind.



As you can see ALL my travels have many adventures.... What is still to come this year?


7 -day cruise with Scotty, Amy and Jen (Fall time)



A trip to NYC with Kevin and Jen


Fall in Ohio ( I hope)


Thanksgiving at my Dads'


I highly recommend keeping one New Years Resolution! It feels great :)