Thursday, May 13, 2010

My Mother's Day Surprise....

I had a BLAST this last weekend surprising my Mom with the most LAYERED surprise I have ever pulled off.  The idea started when Kiley Humphries in my home ward talked to me about wanting to do an "In A Coming Day" Reunion (A song that I taught the primary kids 6 yrs ago...most those primary kids are now graduated or graduating this year!).  I emailed Bishop Jenkins for permission and recieved it so then it was nailing down when we would do it.  A few days later I got a email back from the Bishop asking that if we do it Mother's Day if I would ALSO speak in the ward!  That is all it took to make it happen, I mean, what Mom wouldn't think that was the GREATEST Mother's Day gift Ever?!

So plans were underway and Kiley went to work recruiting and I went to work booking my ticket from Phoenix to Utah and figuring out how I could surprise my Mom the BEST.
I flew in late on Friday night and was picked up by my besties Jen and Erica.  We had a sleep over that night at Jen's and it was so fun to be back together.

The next morning (Saturday) Erica and I left early for Orem and she ran me around finding the music and getting things together for one of our ONLY practices with the kids.  By 10 am I was at the church practicing with the 4 kids that showed up.  Amazingly I wasn't STRESSED out at all cause the 4 kids alone did a great job, I knew it would ALL work out! 
Spent that day visiting with people and surprising other's as well.  It was a fun day.  At 5pm I got dropped off at Mimi's Cafe in Orem where all the women in the family were meeting for a Mother's Day celebration and surprised them all.  Mom and Gram were crying.. it was GREAT!

One thing Mom didn't know is what I had up my sleeves for the next day..that was the best part!  I loved having more surprises coming!  I stayed up till 2am reworking my talk, making sure that it was perfect and what I wanted to portray.  Melba met up with me in the wee hours and of course brought food!! 

I woke up at 6am to get showed and ready for the events that were about to take place that day.  I did have to lie to my Mom and tell her that I was going to hear someone talk when I left at 8am that morning, really I was going to have one final practice!  When we got to the church and about 15-20 youth were there to sing... I WAS ELATED!!  They did such an AMAZING job and really sang with their testimonies!  

I was so thankful for the quotes that I was able to find that supported the feelings of my heart as a single.  I don't think of not being a Mother as doom and gloom.  Although it really is the ONLY thing I can see myself doing for the rest of my life.  But whether it is my kids or others, I am still able to be an example and nurture the kids and people in my life.

I am sure this isn't word for word of my talk...but I just wanted to keep it for posterity sake.

Mothers: A Light Unto the World
By Meg Gazaway.  With teachings from Sheri Dew, Elaine Dalton, Joseph F. Smith and President Gordon B Hinckley

It has come to my attention in my Adult years how there is this thing in the church where Mother’s HATE Mother’s Day.  I have been so intrigued by this that I continue to ask question to my friends as to why this may be.  Some of the answers are that they feel let down by the day, that no one follows through with the celebration (basically there is no such thing as a day off as a Mom) others have responded that they feel inadequate to be celebrated in that way.  Other’s shared that it isn’t really a special day, nothing really changes, kids don’t stop fighting or talking back, some husband’s don’t go the extra mile and so it just feels like a waste.  I have been so surprised by these answers and didn’t quite understand till a recent experience with Mother/Daughter Achievement Day activity gone wild! It’s the kids comments that make you feel inadequate isn’t it? Hahaha

I am living in Gilbert Arizona and attend a family ward there. When the children were asked to tell what their Mother’s  "Hidden Talents" were the following was my favorite responces.

  • 1.       My Mom is really good at yelling.
  •        My Mom likes to hide candy in her room and eat it in her bed.
  •        My Mom can toot on demand.

I just want to assure you Mother’s that I have not asked ANY of your children about your hidden talents or will I throw any of you under the bus.  But today instead we will just talk about how as Women of God in general, we are a force to be reckoned with!

In April Conference 2006 Sister Elaine Dalton shared a poem that her grandfather used to say and I have loved it and repeated it since.
You don’t have to tell how you live each day;
You don’t have to tell if you work or play;
A tried and true barometer stands in its place-
You don’t have to tell, it will show in your face,
If you live close to God and His infinite grace-
You won’t have to tell, it will show in your face!

As Women of the church we are blessed with this light in our countenance.  It comes to us when we keep the covenants that we made with our Heavenly Father and His Son, Jesus Christ and you have made the choices which qualify for you to have the companionship of the Holy Ghost.  That light that comes to us is the Savior’s light.  It is the light of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ.  By the way you live the gospel, you reflect His light.  Your example will have a powerful effect for good on the earth

Sister Dalton continues, “Can one righteous woman change the world? The answer is a RESOUNDING YES! You have the Holy Ghost as your guide, and He “will show you all things…you should do” It is the daily consistent things that you do that will strengthen you to be a leader and an example—daily prayer, daily scripture study, daily obedience, daily service to others.  Are any of us perfect at this?  NO! But we still try and this TRYING makes us worthy of that light!

As we do these things we become more like him and His light shines through us.  And when other’s see that light, they want to be around it!

Do any of you like to play the find a Mormon is the most random places game?  I don’t know if I am alone in this quest, but I LOVE to people watch.  Especially on vacations!  And my most favorite thing to do is find the Mormons!  You know the people with that special light in their eyes!  I have found them in airports all over the US, in shopping centers outside of the typical Utah towns, on cruises you name it.  Now I am pretty friendly person and after observing that light and watching a few of their mannerisms revealed, I have dared to say are you LDS?  And 99% of the times I have asked which have probably numbered in the 20’s they have said YES and I have an instant friend and bond. 

One such instance happened to me in Puerto Rico.  I went with a bunch of my friends there.  One early morning we decided to take an adventure to the island of Culebra.  To do this you have to stand in line by 6am and get a ticket for a one hour boat ride that takes you there for the a day excursion and brings you back that evening.  As we were standing in line I noticed a group of girls with that “Mormon light” within them.  I mentioned to my friends that they were for sure Mormon and they teased me about my theory.  We continued to watch them.  Another girl joined their group and when I looked over at the new arrival I saw she was wearing a shirt that said Old Nauvoo. I laughed told the Spanish speaking member of the group to read the shirt and He rushed over to communicate with them in Spanish and let them know that we too were LDS.  We spent the whole day on the island with them and had a BLAST! All because a glance at their bright light radiating from them. 

The one thing that we can know for sure is that Satan is very opposed to that light that is within us!  He has DECLARED WAR on Motherhood or Womanhood in general!  Sheri Dew in a talk entitled, “Are We Not All Mothers?”  Talked about this very thing. She says, “He knows that those who rock the cradle can rock his earthly empire. And he KNOWS that without righteous Mothers loving and leading the next generation, the kingdom of God will fail.”

I connect with Sheri Dew and feel her light and her understanding of Motherhood without being a Mother herself.  She explains things in such a way that it excites my spirit!  One thing that I learned from this talk that I never have thought about before is she shares this thought, “When we understand the magnitude of motherhood, it becomes clear why prophets have been so protective of woman’s most sacred role.  While we tend to equate motherhood solely with maternity, in the Lord’s language, the word mother has layers of meaning. Of all words they could have chosen to define her role and her essence, both God the Father and Adam called Eve, “the mother of all living”—and they did so BEFORE she ever bore a child.  Like Eve, our motherhood began BEFORE we were born.  Just as worthy men were foreordained to hold the priesthood in mortality, righteous women were ENDOWED premortally with the privilege of Motherhood. Motherhood is more than bearing children, though it is certainly that.  It is the essence of who we are as women.”  

As that was not powerful enough to describe our roles of Motherhood President Hinckley declared, “Men have to have something given to them in mortality to make them Saviors of men, but not mothers, not women.  They were born with an inherent right, an inherent authority, to be saviors of human souls… and the regenerating force in the lives of God’s children.”

As we know, not all of us get to exercise the gift of Motherhood directly, that is in our own homes.  But the Father doesn’t take that away from us who fit in that category. We still have great opportunity to do so vicariously. We just simply have to find other ways. All around us are those who need to be love and led.
Nearly a century ago President Joseph F Smith said this to the Women of the Church,
““It is not for you to be LED by the women of the world; it is for you to LEAD the women of the world in EVERYTHING that is God-like, everything that is uplifting and... purifying to the Children of God.”

Sheri Dew makes this point,
“How will our young women learn to live as women of God unless they see what women of God look like, meaning what we wear, watch, and read; how we fill our time and our minds; how we face temptation and uncertainty; where we find true joy; and why modesty and feminity are hallmarks of a righteous woman? How will our young women learn to value women of God if we don’t show them the virtue of our virtues?”

Few of us will reach our potential without the nurturing of BOTH the mother who bore us and the Mother’s WHO BEAR WITH US!  Those Mother’s are in each of us.  I have been blessed with some of those adopted Mothers in my life who BEAR WITH ME and because of the sweet relationships I have with them it helps me TO KNOW that you don’t have to give birth to someone to LEAD them, to love them.  Infact, it is because I know they love me that I let them help lead me.  Their light is such a calming force in my life.

I wish that you could all know how blessed I was the day Our Father sent me into the arms of my own Mother.  When I was only 9 months old my parents got a divorce and my Grandfather moved my Brother and I along with all 11 of his own children from Marshalltown, Iowa to Provo, Utah.  Since that time my Mother raised us on her own with no help or support from my Dad at all.  My Mom is a true example of that light.  She has always been full of love, testimony and truth.  She has been my hero as long as I have known what a hero was.  I am thankful that I never had to question what side of the line my Mother was on.

Sheri Dew put it this way, “WE ARE THE LORD’S SECRET WEAPON!  Our influence and light comes from a divine endowment that has been in place from the beginning…  The world won’t tell you that, but the spirit will.”

Sisters, today is a special day of rejoicing in that endowment!  It isn’t a day to bring discouragement, frustration, or pity. It doesn’t matter whether we don’t have any kids, or we have 18 and counting we are ALL given that same endowment!  And it is up to us to use our light in ALL Ways to love and lead those, even each other, back to the one who blessed us with such a high honor!
Many of you have blessed me to live vicariously through your families and allowed me in small ways to love your children and to you I am so thankful.  I learn from you, I lean on you and I watch the magnificent job you do in bringing light to a world of darkness and confusion!

When you live close to God and his infinite grace-- You won’t have to tell, it will show in your face!  


Joni said...

Meg, what an amazing talk! I'm glad you shared it on your blog! You are truley an amazing example to those women in your life and to those that are just getting to know you! You have a very special spirit that radiates to all who are around you!

Desiree said...

Well said Meg. Love it and LOVE you!

Anna said...

That was beautiful! You're amazing!

Shan said...

Wow, I wish you had spoken in my ward. Totally what I needed to hear that day.

Shannon said...

Wow, what an awesome talk Meg! What a perfect Mother's Day talk, and surprise for you Mother and Grandma. How fun!

Boise Buhrley's said...

Meg, mom and dad didn't exaggerate one bit when they said this talk was THE BEST mothers day talk they have EVER heard. So, powerful Meg. Beautifully said, so uplifting, so energizing....only one thing could have made it better, hearing it in your voice!!!!!!!!!!!! I love you.

Emily said...

What a amazing mothers day for your mom! I'm sure it will be a day that she will always remember and cherish. We loved having you stay with our kids and fill in as a mother and we really hope you make it back to Utah eventually! Andrew asked me the other day, "when is Meg coming again so we can go to chucky cheese?" haha. I hope all is well!

Melissa said...

Meg Lynn and and I are both so thankful to have you in our life, we love you sooo much, we loved being able to hear your talk it truly was one of the best Mothers day talks, thanks for being such a great example to all of us! love you

Monica said...

What an amazing mother's day surprise!!! I love that you were able to do all that for your mother. She is so blessed to have such an amazing daughter. I loved your talk, you said everything so perfectly about motherhood. You truly are a mother figure to so many. I love you Meg and am so grateful for you and your beautiful example.
I still vote you the most photogenic. You look so radiant and happy in all these pictures.
Thank you for reading your talk to me in the made me feel like I was there!

catroller83 said...

Megan you are an amazing woman and I look up to you! I am glad i have your influence :) love you

Kaela Cusack said...

Meg-you are a BEAUTIFUL woman, inside and out! Whether or not you are a mom in the 'traditional' sense I think is really trivial, as you are one of the most nurturing and caring women I know. You are truly selfless in all that you do, and I think that makes you as much of a mom as anyone! We love you :)